Hi ladies,
I once again feel inspired to share some thoughts with you on having a wonderful relationship with your spouses.
The most basic foundation of each and every relationship should be the love of Christ and God. Do you pray with your man? If not, try it...does he resent the idea? No problem. Get down on your knees in the mornings when he is around and pray aloud to your God. Thank God for your husband, thank Him for the wonderful person he is to you. Ask God to bless your husband's day and that he may be covered with Christ's
blood. Tell God that you know your husband is the best thing that happened to you and if given a thousand other choices, you will still choose him. Do all this in his hearing everyday. Try it and you will see the results.
LOVE HIM...how often do you tell ur man you love him? Once a day...once a week...once a month? Guess what? Men are the most insecure creatures on earth. They also need to hear it. In little ways. It could be a
little note ( I cant remember the last time I wrote a note, got to do that one of these days), a little text message during the day or just a call to say you love him. Love is like wine...it grows better as it matures. We must nurture it and revel in it or else it would go flat.
KNOW HIM...I know we are very impatient creatures ( I could take first prize for that). Try to know when your man is down. That won't be the best time to tell him what is on your mind. It can wait. Sometimes,
silence is the best answer. Know when he needs you most, when you can talk or when you can just hold him tight.
KEEP YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE INSIDE & OUT...I know one of our biggest problems on earth as women is weight loss. But please, if you are losing weight, do it for you and your health...not because of a man. Ever seen a man cheating on his wife with another you consider not even measuring up to the woman in the house? Sometimes, I believe it is because he finds the other person more attractive inside. Be respectful to him, be humble, be kind and above all let him know he is your world. We should also learn to listen ( good advice for me). Sisters, we know that we rule those homes but a man needs to feel needed and we have to learn to do it tactfully. We have to make him know he is always in control.
BE FUN AND INTERESTING....don't let the romance die. When you were dating, what did you talk about? What did you laugh about? What fun things did u do? When was the last time you took him out? When was the last time you tickled him or made a joke with him? Laughter is a wonderful medicine. Learn to be happy. Does your man like football? The internet is at your feet. Learn about football. What is his profession?Read on it and get basic idea. When he comes home, he should be able to talk to you about his interests and you can also talk with him.
TRUST....Aha,I see many raised eyebrows on this!!! Hard as it may be or seem, we have to place full trust in him. Guess what, the Lord is our light and vindicator. Let us stop checking phones, messages etc etc.Imagine how God would feel if we had to question Him about His promises.Remember, only God can change your man. If you think your man is not faithful, pray about it and pray for him. Playing detective Gadget will not help us in anyway.
SURPRISE ALWAYS....Always try to do something surprising once in a while. Learn to be innovative. Sing his favorite song to him at home (even if your voice is as bad as mine). Do something u know he really
enjoys. Not what u enjoy. Make your home a haven where he will rush to each evening.
PRIDE AND ANGER...Let us try to swallow our pride even if we know we are right. All we do should be for the sake of peace. DO NOT let the sun go down on your anger. NEVER scold your husband in public. I am alwaysamused when women are talking about their spouses and their bad habitsin public. Most who know me, know that I praise my hussy always tohighest heaven. DO NOT complain about your husband to your friends.Forget about what people say if they want to talk behind your back. I always tell my husband...I have raised you up in public, if you want to let me down, that is your problem. If you are always complaining about your husband drinking, staying out etc etc...then he will continue doing all those things coz he knows you just expect him to continue.
MAINTAIN YOUR INTEGRITY... Sisters, be strong. Let your husband be proud of you. You are the back bone of your house. Do not give outsiders cause to shun you.
BE EACH OTHER'S BEST FRIEND...You are both one in Christ now. Tell me can someone ask you at a certain moment in time and you are able to tell them precisely where your husband is? You are two halves making one. So you should work in synchrony with each other. Friends, family, colleagues etc...are important but guess what...you are spending the rest of your life with your partner. Put him first always and always get
his side of the story.
Sisters, I know we read tons of literature on this everyday but these are my own small practical examples I felt I could share.
Remember always to expect the best of your relationship because that is what God ordained in our lives as His children. Our relationships should be a mirror of the best that God wants for our lives. Please do not let
the devil destroy your union. There are so may WPUs (Witch peopleUnited) lurking around and waiting for the least opportunity to destroy.
May God bless you all and be with you always.
